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About the Author: Tom Sawyer is a pilot, author, and consulting engineer with 27 years in the industry and is a member of the Institute of Electronic and Electrical Engineers (IEEE). He spent 10 years with the Bell System and was a consultant to Intel Corporation for 11 years. He co-founded an organization that builds libraries for children in Mexico and currently designs water distribution systems in the US and the Caribbean. In 1987, he started having visions of a woman he’d never met. Through a set of extraordinary circumstances he found the woman and her twin boys at a Huichol Indian ceremony. They were married in 1988. In 1991, he accepted a position as chief engineer and vice president for a world-class island resort in the Caribbean. He moved his family to Antigua, West Indies and hobnobbed with the rich and famous until discovering his wife, Mari had little time to live. It was after that, that he became inspired to write their story, “White Summer Dress.” Dialog between readers and the author
“Actually we moved to Antigua in 1991 and I was called out to restore the infrastructure on the island several years later. But to get to your main question, our decision to live in the fishing village of Parham was that life at Jumby Bay Resort was like putting in a quarter and going on a ride, life was choreographed, and life in Parham was real and sweet."
“Yes, in a way. . I really never intended for the book to be a lesson. The lessons that took place had to come out in the story for they were the very things that guided me."
“She gave me permission before she passed on, she actually wanted to pick the woman out before she died, almost ten years ago. To be honest, I think two people coming together in Love has a lot to do with Grace, but one can't just expect the Goddess to someday knock on the door and walk in. I know I have to expose myself and be seen and understood to help the Universe in it's serendipity. I long for a mate where there is a since of home and the whole world with all it's excitement and trappings could go away and it wouldn’t matter, as long as we were together. Most people are not THAT satisfied with each other and require juice from the outside world to sustain their relationship.”
Tom Sawyer, "There are so many dispersed throughout the book. One of
my favorites is jealousy - how this special kind of fear fragments the
love between two people. However, my most important lesson came by being
with my beloved in the “hard cold light of day,” as Gyanamata would put
it. When Mari was dying and her body could no longer provide anything
for me, through our humanness I was able to feel her presence beyond
what made up her body. It was a lesson in unbearable compassion leading
me to love in the face of complete loss. This lesson came in many
magnitudes and continues in varying degrees to this day. This type of
love is beyond just a state of mind, it is a substance like water;
forever changing. I would reside totally in this place had I no fear."
Tom Sawyer, “That
would be a whole other book and I really wanted to tell the story that
took place between 1987 to 2001 although I drifted into the past some,
but kept it mainly about Mari and I - our struggle to be as one in the
midst of all that was going on and my survival afterwards.”
Tom Sawyer, “Most all our
lives are "moments" surround by self-induced filler. I took a storyboard
and hung it on my wall, listing the "moments" in an outline. This took
several months. Then through our journals, letters, and pocket calendars
I proceeded to write. Much of it was written sitting under an oak tree,
long hand - a lot was written over the keyboard. The key for me was to
outline the book first even though the string and the sting took me to
places that did not appear on the storyboard.”
Tom Sawyer, "That will remain a mystery never
to be told."
“Yes,
I wrote it first in Word, then created an 8.5" x 11" x 3" plastic bound
manuscript that Mari's sister copy edited. I'm a very bad speller and
flunked English, so you can see that she had a major task to complete,
as well as, dealing with the emotions that came up for her through the
loss of her sister. Then I printed 6 more manuscripts and gave them to
neighbors and friends to copy edit. Then there was ten volunteers, I
didn't know at the time, (people I would walk up to and ask out of the
blue), who read the book a chapter at a time. Then Anila Manning, a
professional editor spent 2 months with me going over things like,
redundancy, flow, etc. Then I had fifty books printed at a local bindery
and gave the books to people who agreed to read while feeding back
typos. Then I printed 150 - more typo changes, then 500 - more typo
changes, now 2000 (second edition with a new cover and forward).”
Tom Sawyer, "Besides being initially infatuated
with each other, our shadows selves seem to line up and there was a
tremendous amount of mutual respect. I think part of it was we could be
quiet together without feeling there had to be a lot of assurance
communication. But mostly because we considered each other buddies, buddies
first then lovers, then husband and wife. We liked hanging out together."
Tom Sawyer, "I think I have always been a
romantic, I can remember falling in love in kindergarten with the girl
across the street and figured we would marry and live in a tree house in
the woods."
Tom Sawyer, "There is something inside of me that believes in the hearts of people and that's what I look for, I try to meet them at that level. As far as Mari, she was like a sparkler, you couldn't help but look. Then once they looked inside... people saw her spirit; generous, wild and beautiful like a flowered prairie... It was not unusual for her to walk into a room and stop conversation. People would mingle to where she was at. I don't know how to explain it -- it was magical."
Tom
Sawyer, "I... the person who is telling the story, is my spirit. My
spirit is the one who has observed my life and wrote the book. It was
written in the way of Vipassana, "The way of the observer" Find a book
on Vipassana meditation, it should give you some insight onto this
path." |
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